Today, I want to talk about the difference between emotional pain itself and then the fear of experiencing the emotional pain. They are two very different concepts that can produce very different realities…. And the thing that appears to determine whether we go on to develop all the fear around experiencing emotional pain is how hard we resist and wrestle with it…. as opposed to allowing it and processing your way through it.
We can either meet it with a mindset of resistance and rejection, or allowance and acceptance. Which is not to say you condone or enjoy it, but that you just allow it to be present without pushing it away. What you resist, persists….so when there isn’t that resistance or opposing force, you’re then allowing it to pass right through.
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